Seeing is the underpinning of all emotional health and is as important as any vitamin or nutrient. When one is emotionally seen, they bloom, and when they aren’t, they wilt. It is a fundamental need of all humans that is never outgrown.
In order to understand exactly what seeing is, you need to first understand what it’s not. Seeing is not judging, fixing, pathologizing, analyzing, or rationalizing emotions, all of which view emotions as problems to solve. Seeing is allowing emotional truth, in all its contradictions, varying intensities, and strong convictions, to be acknowledged as is. Seeing honors the emotional energy in your body even when it doesn’t make any logical sense.
When emotions are seen, they loosen their grip. Shoulders drop, eyes soften, lungs exhale, and faces relax. The urge to act from an emotionally charged place dissipates, as does criticism of self and/or others. Being seen is what emotions want and is the agent that moves them through us, leaving us lucid, peaceful, and discerning.