Welcome to my mighty but humble space in the cyber-universe.

I teach people how to use unconditional love to heal their heart. This is also called forgiveness.

I found forgiveness in October 2012 after a three-year struggle from a ruptured relationship...and it worked. For the first time in three years I felt peaceful. Prior to this experience I mainly thought forgiveness was an unrealistic religious ideal, so when I gave forgiveness a try and it ended my struggle, I was wowed.

Within a few years the following became clear:

  • Most people are living with some hurt they wish they could forgive, but they lack a practical how.
  • Though most define forgiveness as pardoning, forgiveness has another definition that does not excuse behavior. Forgiveness is also a spiritual experience that heals the heart.
  • People who identify as spiritual-but-not-religious want a forgiveness path that is straight-up, practical, heart-centered, and dogma-free.

With these truths in mind, I created How to Forgive and my mission is two-fold:

  1. To bring forth a modern forgiveness path centered in the practical application of unconditional love. From this angle, pardoning is only a potential outcome, while inner peace is the true prize.
  2. To inspire healing. These times are a result of betrayals and traumas that span hundreds of years. In order to collectively shift from destructive to creative thinking, the ability to see and resolve emotional vulnerabilities must become ordinary. Forgiveness is a means to this end.
Life Path:
  • I was born and raised in New York City and am of Puerto Rican and Irish descent. Both of my parents turned away from their familial Christian upbringings and I was raised to figure out my own spiritual path.
  • From my earliest memories I had a strong interest in psychology and spirituality. This interest led me to a 15 year career in human services that culminated in a M.A. in Contemplative (Buddhist) Psychology from Naropa University in 2002, and a Buddhist inspired psychotherapy practice.
  • In addition to my academic pursuits, I have taken many personal growth workshops and programs with renowned teachers in the realms of feminine spirituality and feminine power. These teachings inspired me to teach workshops on belonging, desire, and self-love from 2008-2014.
  • I know the high-highs and the low-lows of relationship. I have cared for loved ones who were exiting this world, and I have birthed two beings into this world. I have entered into and eventually left, unhealthy relationships. I have done and continue to do, the work that creates a strong marriage. I currently ride the roller-coaster of modern motherhood.
  • I am a Highly Sensitive Person (HSP) which I consider my greatest asset as a forgiveness teacher. The world affects me deeply and I am prone to feeling anger, resentment, shame, and guilt. These feelings have been and continue to be, my greatest teachers.
“Dara has succeeded where many with the ancient knowing have struggled- in bringing this wisdom into a modern context that channels magic back into the world in a way that is relevant and needed NOW.” L.H. Seattle, WA
“A masterful teacher.” L.S., Seattle, WA
How to Forgive was an excellent experience.  Huge and lasting shifts occurred with just a little effort.” J.K. Seattle, WA
“Dara’s spirituality is so alive, you can almost see it, taste it and smell it. She was the perfect muse to help me re-birth me back into the world.” M.I. Boulder, CO
“Dara is a genius. She has synthesized so much powerful information in a way that is truly more than the sum of its parts.” C.M. Seattle, WA
“Thank you. Your work is so powerful and healing and I flew home on my bike like I was one with all of humanity, the earth, the sky, and eternity.” A.S. Seattle, WA
“Dara makes the forgiveness process fun, yet also deep, meaningful, doable, and effective.” C.M. Seattle, WA
“I cannot thank you enough. You have literally changed my life. What a powerful being you are!” D.V. Seattle, WA
“Dara will take you to the depths of your divinity.” F.B. Seattle, WA
“Dara is 21st century High Priestess” T.E. Seattle, WA
“A defenseless warrior” M.B. Boulder, CO
“Dara has succeeded where many with the ancient knowing have struggled- in bringing this wisdom into a modern context that channels magic back into the world in a way that is relevant and needed NOW.” L.H. Seattle, WA
“Dara is an inspiration and a treasure.” T. Z. Boulder, CO
“To have had my life rocked by such a powerful and gentle wave called Dara is a gift I will treasure immensely.” K.J. Seattle, WA
“Dara as the perfect mix of the East Coast and West Coast. She has her feet firmly on the ground with a head full of real-world knowledge.” L.P. Lafayette, LA
“In the world of forgiveness Dara is brilliant, sincere, and affirming.” C.M., Seattle, WA
“This experience opens my heart to feel love in a whole new way.” E.W. Seattle, WA
“Dara McKinley is pure genius and light.” K.C. Seattle, WA
How to Forgive was an incredible course filled with lots of juicy rituals and practical tools.” C.C. Seattle, WA
“Dara has clearly walked the path that she is teaching and delivers the information in a way that’s concise, beautiful, and full of magic.” J.B. Los Angeles, CA

The Three Keys of Forgiveness

At the core of forgiveness is a straightforward path that rests on three key elements.

Enter your email to receive The Three Keys of Forgiveness PDF in your inbox: